Do you know what you want?

Last week I posted on the challenges of relying on others to recognize our needs and wants. Today, I want to pose a similar question. Can you rely on yourself to know what you want, what YOU really want? Or are you stuck in the role you are performing – that of a parent, a partner, a friend, an employee, a manager? Are you attending to the needs and expectations of others around you? And not your own? Do you wonder who you really are and who you could be if you allowed your potential to come through?

I know it took me a while not only to know and acknowledge what I wanted, but also to be able to give this acknowledgment and desire a voice. To follow it up with an action. To stand by it against ‘the advice’ of those around me who ‘knew better’ and their expectations of me. It was a scary process and it was an adventure to myself.

Today, I know what I want. I have the self-confidence and self-esteem to give voice to this. I know how to ask and get what I want for myself. It is empowering and it makes me feel whole. And funnily enough, those who ‘knew better’ now tell me I am a happier person for having made that change.

If you believe there is more to you than the roles you are playing, and you just don’t know how to get there, are you ready come on the adventure with yourself, for yourself and to yourself to discover what it’s like to step into your own?